ATTENTION MR X

I've got an interesting story to share with everyone and a message. This is the real Gie writing... no more speculations about what I think or who I am for the benefit of those who presume to know me.

It all started with a simple "you all go ahead with dinner" one Saturday evening (Refer Post entry 23 March 2008)...

Does anyone see anything wrong with that picture? Not really, unless you are one super sensitive person and you are not in that picture. For anyone wondering what exactly I am talking about, let me tell the story of that night to you:-

Sharon and I went shopping that afternoon whilst our boys went to play soccer (does it sound repetitive? Bear with me..) Around 6.30pm, we sat down for some iced chocolate & coffee and I got a call asking me if I would like to have "kuey chap" for dinner then. Since we had just bought our drinks and not really feeling like "kuey chap" that day, we politely declined the invitation. No one asked if we wanted to eat something else at a later time, so we just left it at that and went for Korean dinner about an hour and a half later.

Who would have thought that a simple picture like that could cause so much distress and misunderstanding. Not on our part, no... we had a blast that night, chatting and getting to know each other, stretching our dinner easily to 10.30pm! Then, later that night, a phonecall call came and accusations started flying around...

"Why cannot have dinner together?"
My ans: Just bought my drinks, not ready for dinner and don't want to eat "kuey chap"
Frm another view: The girls hate me and are talking bad behind my back. That's WHY they don't want to have dinner together...
HUH???

In the first place, why would you think that you are being disliked? Would friends think that of their other friends if they went out to dinner together? Must a bunch of friends call on everyone when they want to have dinner? We've had dinner just the 4 of us alone together before and didn't invite the rest. Does that mean we are out gossiping about the people not present or we dislike them? Maybe the reason you think like that is because that's how YOU work and that's what YOU do.

OR. Deep down inside you know that you have done something wrong to give reason to talk. So, the feelings and imagination about things going on behind your back, triggers off in your mind. Furthermore, you are the expert in psychology so you KNOW people and can read their minds, know their character without the need to actually get to know them.

Maybe if you stop hiding behind your psychology world, you can wake up and see the world and its people for who they are. It's sad coz you practically live in your own mind and thoughts. It's dangerous to others coz you have the power to influence and impose your perceptions on those who trust you. Like you once said, you have the ability to tell people what you think and convince anyone of anything... I always took it with humour but believe that now as I witness the mind games you play.

That fateful night triggered of a series of events and happenings but the next big thing happened when we went for Comedy night without checking with you. You once told us that you never liked live performances like plays or movies. We didn't realise that stand-up comedy was not in the same entertainment group as the mentioned, so no one thought it would be a big deal not asking you to Comedy night. Apparently it does matter because your other half wanted to go. Just to let you know, we ALL did want to ask, but the message got lost. Maybe you want to reflect on this.. if you are such a generous, big-hearted, warm personality, why are the plans not including you? BUT, I'm not here to judge although I do feel that it was unnecessary to blow things up to such a scale. I feel that a more "normal" reaction to finding out that your friends went out without you to something you are interested in would be more like "Oh you went for that? How was it? I also want to go so count me in next time"..

Want to know what happened when you found out? You know, but not all my readers know. Your reaction was "Angie is evil and influencing everyone to exclude me", "I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore", "that's the end of the friendship" (I dun friend you liao?).. what are you? 10? In all fairness, I am probably not quoting your exact words but the gist is there. I have to cover myself in case you say you never said such things... but you sure implied them.

Are you bored yet? I'm almost done with my story... here's the ultimate bit..

You call Jem and tell him you are angry with me and that I am.. well.. to sum it all up, a b*tch. You dislike me and don't want to see me anymore and we don't have to include you in our plans going forward. Thanks for that. Now you have given me the go-ahead to cut you out from our lives. Do you really think Jem will keep this all from me? Do the people around you know that you called MY BOYFRIEND and told him that you hated his girlfriend? Now now.. that's not very nice is it? Who does things like that? I don't tell your girlfriend all the nasty things you do, do I? Wait... all the things you tell Jem are based on your own thoughts and perceptions.

This is the best part... I hear you say I am a self-centered and selfish person and probably said to Jem that he deserves better. (You probably said alot more but I shan't speculate.. I reckon this is enough to talk about) What on earth did I do to the love of my life to warrant such judgement? Before you point your finger at others, do you have a right to judge anyone? I think not. Cliche as it sounds, I hope you realise that 3 other fingers point back at you. I strongly suggest you keep your opinions and judgements to yourself.

I guess I don't really want to achieve anything from this post, aside from saying my peace and hoping I get my point across to those I consider friends. You don't even want to confront me directly and now, I don't want to try either. It's not like we didn't try to make things normal again with organizing the picnic or at least try to act like adults and put this all behind. Actually, what am I saying, I've got nothing to put behind coz I didn't even know all these issues existed until your call with Jem. I guess it's you who needs to "get over it" and try to act your age for once. I guess my objective is to provide some great gossip and entertainment and hope that those around him not just take his words as the truth but see for themselves what the world really is. I don't want to cause anymore hurt or misunderstanding or unhappiness. I hope we can all let this go and get on with our lives.

Good night and hope you enjoyed the read!

Bytch*fyd G*eggles